Do you really need to be a New You in 2020?

January 5, 2020 Chris 1718 Views 0 Comments

Sarah Howard is a psychotherapist and teacher of Mindfulness, specialising in Anxiety. She works from The Therapy Rooms in Springhead.

This is the time of year when we’re all under pressure to buy into the ‘New Year New You’ mantra, we’re encouraged to change our diets, our habits, our lifestyles, our career.

There’s so much pressure on us to strive to be different or better, so much pressure to change ourselves. So instead of me suggesting how you can become a New You, I’m going to suggest something else, I’m asking you to accept yourself for who you truly are.

I want you to consider these words by Oriah Mountain Dreamer and as you read them I want you to really take them in…

What if there is no need to change, no need to try and transform yourself into someone who is more compassionate, more present, more loving or wise?

How would this effect all the places in your life where you are endlessly trying to be better?

What if the task is simply to unfold, to become who you already are in your essential nature- gentle, compassionate and capable of living fully and passionately present?

How would this effect how you feel when you wake up in the morning?

What if who you essentially are right now is all that you are ever going to be?

How would this effect how you feel about your future?

What if the essence of who you are and always have been is enough?

How would this effect how you see and feel about your past?

What if the question is not why am I so infrequently the person I really want to be, but why do I so infrequently want to be the person I really am?

If you want to make changes this year then go for it, but don’t strive to change yourself, instead aim to be the best version of yourself in 2020.